After my Mom had been diagnosed with BiPolar, and before her disease progressed tremendously, in March 2006 we planned a trip to Maui.  I found a good deal on airfare and asked her and her husband to join my family.  Her husband grumbled about the money, but went.  There my Mom kept repeating “we gotta book it” about all activities, and we noticed how much her and the husband were fighting.  It was nonstop, over the dumbest things and it was ruining the vacation.  I wish I would have realized then how their marriage had gone from being all together to all for the husband but I still trusted him.  I am very glad we planned this trip as it is the last one I have taken with my Mom.